I know what you're thinking...
...when you see photo reels, and tiktoks from the latest boudoir shoots come across your feed:
"These are gorgeous, but I could never.."
"I don't think I could pull this off."
"It would be way too awkward!"
If those thoughts sound similar to the ones swirling around in your own head, you are not alone! So many women feel exactly like you do when it comes to finding the confidence to take on a boudoir shoot. It can seem intimidating, especially if you've never stripped down in front of a camera before.
If you're wondering how you can get the courage up to take that plunge, you're in the right place. The first thing you need to know is that you absolutely have it in you to rock it for the camera and fall in love with yourself all over again.
The second thing you need to know is HOW. I know it probably sounds like old-school, repetitive advice, but the truth is that you are your own worst critic. There is an entire generation of strong women determined to build up other women, but where they often fall short is being able to build up themselves. Does that sounds like you?
I want you to try something. Think of your best friend and picture her sitting in front of you right now. Imagine all of those critical thoughts you have about yourself and your body, but pretend that your best friend is the one saying those things, about herself. What would you tell her? Would you tell her that she's crazy for ever thinking about herself that way? Would you remind her of how beautiful she is? Maybe you would remind her of the absolute bad-ass she is, how the world looks at her, and how different it is from how she is seeing herself. Of course we would do and say any of these things for our best friend, because we know how amazing she is. The question still remains, though, why can't we speak to ourselves the same way?
What if for one day, you stopped being your worst critic? What if for a change you looked in the mirror and spoke to yourself the way you would speak to your best friend? How much bigger and brighter would your confidence be? Go on and try it! The way we speak to our own bodies will make or break us when it comes to the leaps we are willing to take for ourselves.
You are indefinitely worthy, deserving and beautiful enough inside and out to treat yourself to an intimate photo shoot. There is something breathtaking about the way a woman transforms in front of the camera, throwing all insecurities aside and embracing her own femininity to the highest power. You can do it too.
It may also be helpful to remember that I (your photographer) will guide you every step of the way. There won't be any awkward feelings because you will be given direction and helpful tips to ensure the images showcase your beauty in the most stunning way. My expertise is in knowing exactly how to pose you so that your most flattering angles are captured.
Let's now consider how we get there and the steps you can take to get in the door for your first shoot feeling ready for anything. The first thing I want you to do is go pick out some beautiful lingerie that fits your style - or, if lingerie isn't your thing, go pick out an outfit that makes you feel sexy! Half of the fun is getting to put on something pretty that you normally wouldn't get to wear. Have a ball with it and pick out more than one outfit or lingerie set so you can switch it up during your shoot!
The last step is to get yourself scheduled! Getting a date on the calendar makes it real and gives you something to look forward to. The honest truth is that you are going to love this experience, and you are going to rock it better than anyone. In the days leading up to your appointment, do some things that make you and your body feel good. Take a hot bath, do some exfoliating, get a massage done, fit a couple of workouts in. Do whatever it is that feeds your soul and gets your mind centered.
You can rest assured that this experience is going to change your life, in the best way possible. It's finally going to be your turn to see yourself on camera and say "OMG, that's really me?!".